In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
It is reported that Shuraih, who was a judge, met ash-Sha'bi. This latter asked him about
his life at home. Shuraih said:
"I have not had any problem with my wife for twenty years. "ash-Sha'bi said: "How come?"
Shuraih replied: "On our wedding night, I looked at her and saw
a rare fascinating beauty. I then said to myself: I should make Wudu', pray two
Rakaa't and praise Allah. When I finished, I found
out that she was following me in prayers and finished as soon as I had
finished. When the guest left the house. I moved towards her and tried to touch
her. But she said: "Wait a minute O Abu Umayyah (i.e. Shuraih), stay where
you are." Then, she said: "All
praise is due to Allah. We praise Him, seek His aid and ask for His
forgiveness. Peace and Blessing be upon Muhammad ﷺ. I am a stranger to
you and I have no idea about your morals and attitudes. So tell me what you
like and I will do it, and what you hate and I will avoid it. She continued:
There must be among your people a woman that "you could have married and a
man among my people that I could have married, but Allah (swt) has given you
control over me, so obey Him; either retain me on reasonable terms or release
me with kindness. This is all I have to say and may Allah forgive us
both."
Shuraih then, said: I found myself in need of giving a khutbah,
which I had not delivered for quite a long time. I said: All praise is due to
Allah. We praise Him, seek His aid and ask for His forgiveness. Peace and
Blessing be upon Muhammad ﷺ. You (i.e. his wife) have said many things, which, if you stand firm on
them, you will be rewarded, but if you fail them, they will be evidence against
you. I love such and such things, and I hate such and such things. You may
spread whatever good deed you see, and conceal whatever evil deed you see. She
then, said: "What would you say to my relatives visiting?" I replied:
"I do not want your family to dictate things to me." She said:
"Which of your neighbours do you want to visit me? I said: "The
family of such and such are good people and the family of such and such are bad
company.
Shuraih then, said: I had a wonderful
wedding night and our first year was marvellous. When the new year came and
upon my return from the court, I found a woman in my house, I asked my wife:
'Who is she?' My wife replied: 'Your mother-in-law.' My mother-in-law looked at
me and asked: "How do you find your wife?" I said: 'The best wife a
man can have.' She then said: 'O Abu Umayyah, you will be in a worse condition
then her only in two cases; if she gives birth to a child of is she enjoys your
favours. I swear that men have never seen inflicted with a worse evil then a
spoilt woman. So discipline your wife.
I lived with my wife
for twenty years and never complained about her, except once, and then I was
unfair to her.
This is how a husband should be, how a wife should be and how a
mother-in-law should be. May Allah have
mercy on them and grant us to have such an attributes in the marriage life
which eventually bear fruits not only in
this life but in the next life also and to meet at the hereafter In-Sha-Allah,
Ameen.
Source: Kalamullah.com
