Monday 26 January 2015

A Cute Letter from a newly married girl to her mother!




Dear Mom,
Like every normal girl, I was excited about marriage right from my childhood days. I never thought beyond the time that I would spend happily with my prince charming.
But today when I am married, I realize that marriage is not all roses. It’s not just about being with your beloved and having a gala time. There is so much more to it. It comes with its own share of responsibilities, duties, sacrifices and compromises.
I can’t wake up anytime I want to.
I am expected to be up and ready before everyone else in the family.
I can’t laze around in my pyjamas throughout the day.
I am expected to be presentable every time.
I can’t just go out anytime I want to.
I am expected to be sensitive to the needs of the family.
I just can’t hit the bed anytime I want to.
I am expected to be active and around the family.
I can’t expect to be treated like a princess but am supposed to take care of everyone else in the family.
And then I think to myself, ‘why did I get married at all?’ I was happier with you, mom. Sometimes I think of coming back to you and getting pampered again.
I want to come home to my favorite food cooked by you every evening after a nice outing with friends. I want to sleep on your laps like I have no worry in this world. But then I suddenly realize, had you not got married and made such sacrifices in your life, I wouldn't have had so many wonderful memories to hang on to. And suddenly, the purpose of all this becomes clear- to return the same comfort, peace and happiness to my new family that I got from you.
And I am sure that as time would pass, I would start loving this life equally as you do. Thank you mom for all the sacrifices and compromises you made. They give me the strength to do the same. Love you.
It's an excellent letter for all daughters.

Reference: NikahExplorer.


Saturday 17 January 2015

Husband and Wife Dialogues:


In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

The husband : did you pray ‘Asr prayer ?
The wife : No !
The husband : Why ?
The wife : I just arrived from work and I am a bit tired. I will go to sleep.
The husband : Ok ! Go pray ‘Asr and Maghrib before the Athan for ‘Isha prayer starts.

The next day, as usual, the husband went on a business trip which would last for days. He left the house. After few hours he arrived at his destination. The wife waited for his call as usual. He didn't call or inbox her. She phoned him but no reply! She became irritated and worried about him. She phoned again and again but no reply !

After few hours he phoned her.

The wife : are you ok, honey ?!!
The husband : yes, I am ok. Alhamdulillah.
The wife : when did you arrive ?
The husband : four hours now.
The wife : «surprised » : Four hours !!! but you didn’t call !!!
The husband : I arrived a bit tired and I went to sleep.
The wife : You could have called me. It wouldn’t have taken more than few minutes. Didn’t you hear the phone ringing ?
The husband : Yes, I did.
The wife : why didn’t you answer the phone? Didn’t you care?
The husband : (silent)….. But yesterday you also didn’t care when you heard the Adhan, a call from Allah.
The wife : (silent, and tears in her eyes). You are right, honey. I am sorry !
The husband : Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala to forgive you, not me!
We can be together in Jannah. Insha'Allah.

Reference: Nikah Explorer

Wednesday 14 January 2015

Don't be Sad, Allah Loves you!


 In the Name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

  Ñ    Allah says:

ﷲﺍ ﻥﺇ ﺍﻭﻨﺴﺤﺃﻭ   ﻥﻴﻨﺴﺤﻤﻟﺍ ﺏﺤﻴ

which means: “…And do good; indeed, Allah loves the doers of good…” [Al-Baqarah: 195] The slave of Allah rushes towards doing good because this entitles him to the love of Allah.

Ñ     Allah says:
ﻥﻴﺭﻬﻁﺘﻤﻟﺍ ﺏﺤﻴﻭ ﻥﻴﺒﺍﻭﺘﻟﺍ ﺏﺤﻴ ﷲﺍ ﻥﺇ

which means: “…Indeed,  Allah  loves  those who are constantly repentant  and  loves those  who purify   themselves.”  [Al-Baqarah:  222]  This   refers   to  inward  as  well  as outward purity.

Ñ     Allah says:
ﻥﻴﺭﺒﺎﺼﻟﺍ ﺏﺤﻴ ﷲﺍﻭ

which means: “…And Allah loves the steadfast.” [Aal ‘Imraan: 146]

Ñ     Allah says:
ﺏﺤﻴ ﷲﺍ ﻥﺇ   ﻥﻴﻠﻜﻭﺘﻤﻟﺍ

which means: “…Indeed Allaah loves those who rely [upon Him].” [Aal ‘Imraan: 159]

Ñ     Allah says:

ﻲﺘﺄﻴ ﻑﻭﺴﻓ ﻪﻨﻴﺩ ﻥﻋ ﻡﻜﻨﻤ ﺩﺘﺭﻴ ﻥﻤ ﺍﻭﻨﻤﺁ ﻥﻴﺫﻟﺍ ﺎﻬﻴﺃ ﺎﻴ   ﻪﻨﻭﺒﺤﻴﻭ ﻡﻬﺒﺤﻴ ﻡﻭﻘﺒ ﷲﺍ    ﻰﻠﻋ ﺓﺯﻋﺃ ﻥﻴﻨﻤﺅﻤﻟﺍ ﻰﻠﻋ ﺔﻟﺫﺃ
ﻥﻴﺭﻓﺎﻜﻟﺍ   ﷲﺍ لﻴﺒﺴ ﻲﻓ ﻥﻭﺩﻫﺎﺠﻴ   ﻡﺌﻻ ﺔﻤﻭﻟ ﻥﻭﻓﺎﺨﻴ ﻻﻭ

which means: “O you who have believed! Whoever of you should revert from his religion  – Allah will bring forth [in place of them] a people He will love and who will love Him  [who are] humble toward the believers; powerful against the disbelievers; they strive in  the cause of Allah and do not fear the blame of a critic...” [Al-Ma’idah: 54]

Ñ     Allah Has informed us that He loves the pious as well as those who are honorable  and   fair  with  their   families;  he   also   loves   those  who   shoulder   responsibilities  or  positions of authority justly. Additionally, Allah loves those who fight for His sake and are united in this.

Ñ     Sa`d ibn Abi Waqqaas, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that: "The  Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said: “Allah loves a slave who is pious, free of all wants and inconspicuous (in performing good deeds).” [Muslim]. Being  free of all wants is a result of being content with what Allah has provided, and such a  person would never ask anything of people, nor would he be seeking high positions; such a person would be far too busy devoting himself to worshipping Allah and focusing on his own shortcomings.


Ñ     `Amr ibn Shu`ayb, may Allah have mercy upon him, on the authority of his father  and grandfather, reported: "The Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam  said: “Allah loves to see the signs of His bounties on his slave.” [At-Tirmithi] This should however be done without exaggeration, showing off, or being stingy if one is in a position where he needs to spend.  

Ñ     Abu Idrees Al-Khawlaani, may Allah have mercy upon him, reported: “I once  entered the Grand Mosque in Damascus where I happened to catch sight of a young man who had bright teeth (i.e., he was always smiling). A number of people had gathered around him. When they differed over anything they would refer it to him and act upon  his advice. I asked who he was and I was told that he was Mu`aath ibn Jabal, may Allah  be pleased with him. The next day, I hastened to the mosque and found that he had arrived there before me and was busy in prayer. I waited until he finished, and then approached him from the front, greeted him with Salaam, and then said to him: ' I swear by Allah that I love you.' So he asked: 'For the sake of Allah?' I replied: 'Yes, for the sake of Allah.' He again asked me: 'Is it for Allah's sake?' I replied: 'Yes, it is for Allah's sake.' Then he took hold of my cloak, drew me to himself, and said: 'Rejoice! I heard the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam saying: “Allah the Exalted says: My love is for those who love one another for My sake, meet one another for My sake, visit one another for My sake and spend in charity for My sake.” [Maalik] 

Ñ     `Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, reported: "The Messenger of Allah,  sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam appointed a man in charge of an army unit who would also  lead them in prayer; he always concluded his recitation with chapter Al-Ikhlaas, (which  means): "Say [O Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam]: 'He is Allah, [the] One.  Allah As-Samad [Allah, the Self-Sufficient]. He begets not, nor was He begotten. And  there is none equal or comparable to Him.''' [Al-Ikhlaas:1-4] Upon the return of the unit to Al-Madeenah, they mentioned this to the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, who said: "Ask him why he does so?'' He was asked and his reply was: 'This  chapter mentions some attributes of Allah, the Gracious, and so I love to recite it.' When the Messenger of Allah sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam heard this, he said to his  people: "Tell him that Allah loves him." [Al-Bukhaari & Muslim] 

Ñ     The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam was asked who were the most beloved to  Allah and he answered: “Those who benefit others the most, and the dearest deed (to  Allah) is the happiness that a Muslim brings to the heart of his fellow Muslim.”

Ñ     The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam was asked about the most beloved of the  slaves of Allah, to which he sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam answered: “Those who are  best in manners.” [At-Tabaraani]

Ñ     Allah loves those who are easy on others when buying, selling and during disputes.

Courtesy of kalamullah.com
  

Friday 9 January 2015

Are you really fall in love with Allah?


In the Name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.


Love is something that is hidden, it exists in the heart and therefore anyone can claim to  have it; Allah informs us about the Jews and the Christians: 

ﺩﻭﻬﻴﻟﺍ ﺕﻟﺎﻗﻭ   ﻕﻠﺨ ﻥﻤﻤ ﺭﺸﺒ ﻡﺘﻨﺃ لﺒ ﻡﻜﺒﻭﻨﺫﺒ ﻡﻜﺒﺫﻌﻴ ﻡﻠﻓ لﻗ ﻩﺅﺎﺒﺤﺃﻭ ﷲﺍ ﺀﺎﻨﺒﺃ ﻥﺤﻨ ﻯﺭﺎﺼﻨﻟﺍﻭ


which means: “But the Jews and the Christians say: 'We are the children of Allah and His  beloved.' Say: 'Then why does He punish you for your sins?' Rather, you are human beings from among those He has created…” [Al-Ma’idah: 18] Love is easy to claim but difficult to prove. One should not allow himself to be deceived by the thoughts which Satan brings to his mind, making him think that he loves Allah; a person should first test himself by means of practical indicators in order to ascertain his claim, because love is just like a tree which bears fruit; so the love in one's heart will reflect on his limbs as an indicator of its existence, just as smoke is an indicator of fire. There are many such signs, such as:
 
·         Loving to meet Allah, because one always longs to meet his beloved, always mentions him and never forgets him. When will we meet Allah? This will happen three times: The first will be at the time of death; the second will be on the Day of Resurrection and the third will be in Paradise. The fact that the first meeting will be at the time of death does not mean that one should supplicate to Allah for Him to take his soul, rather, what it should mean is that when death does arrive, the righteous slave rejoices, because he will be next to his Lord and receive reward and blessings from Him, as Allah says: 

ﺭﻬﻨﻭ ﺕﺎﻨﺠ ﻲﻓ ﻥﻴﻘﺘﻤﻟﺍ ﻥﺇ *   ﺭﺩﺘﻘﻤ ﻙﻴﻠﻤ ﺩﻨﻋ ﻕﺩﺼ ﺩﻌﻘﻤ ﻲﻓ

Which means: “Indeed, the righteous will be among gardens and rivers, in a seat of honor near a Sovereign, Perfect in Ability.” [Al-Qamar: 54-55] Allah knows that His righteous slaves love and long to meet Him, and thus He informs them that they will indeed meet Him by saying:

ﺕﻵ ﷲﺍ لﺠﺃ ﻥﺈﻓ ﷲﺍ ﺀﺎﻘﻟ ﻭﺠﺭﻴ ﻥﺎﻜ ﻥﻤ

Which means: “Whoever should hope for the meeting with Allah – indeed, the term of [i.e., decreed by] Allah is coming…” [Al-‘Ankaboot: 5] 

·   Enjoying being alone while supplicating to Allah, reciting the Qur’an, and praying optional night prayers while taking advantage of the calmness of the night and the absence of obstructions; and this is the very lowest level of love, because one who sleeping or talking to others more than supplicating at night is not truthful in his claim to love to Allah. The more love that one has for his beloved, the more he enjoys obeying and serving him.

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam said:
“From among the things of this life, women and perfume were made dear to my heart,  but the delight of my eyes lie in prayer.” [An-Nasaa’i] The delight of the eyes are, as  Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim, may Allah have mercy upon him, said, of a higher rank than  loving worldly things such as women and perfume. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa  sallam informed us that the delight of the eyes are those things that bring about real  tranquility and joy, and in his case, it was when he would pray, which was his  connection with his Lord. He whose delight of the eyes in this life lies in prayer, will  have the delight of his eyes lie in being close to Allah in the Hereafter in addition to the support of Allah for him during this life. 
 
One who obeys Allah due to love will do so easily and willingly, in contrast to he who  feels that it is a heavy burden on his back. Those who are sincere and who truly love Allah are obedient to him; they obey Him as easily as water runs down from the top of a hill. Such people's souls delight in obeying Him. 

How can we explain the hardship that one faces during certain acts, such as waking  up to pray the optional night prayers or the Fajr prayer? Does this perceived hardship  mean that the slave does not love Allah? We must know that reaching the state in  which a slave worships Allah with ease cannot be accomplished at the very first  attempt or act of worship; rather, it is vital that one trains himself, struggles and  sacrifices. This is why the joy and pleasure of worship only occurs after one perseveres  and exhausts himself in it. When he does this with sincerity, he eventually reaches the  level of being able to worship Allah with ease and pleasure. This is why some of the  righteous Salaf, may Allah have mercy upon them, would say: “We struggled for twenty years with our optional night prayers, but enjoyed them for the rest of our lives.”

One fluctuates between enjoying them and finding them difficult until he reaches the level of totally enjoying his worship. Thus, It becomes evident that striving to worship Allah consists of various ranks and the one who comprehends this will be able to reach the highest of them, which would then make worshiping Allah very easy for him. One who reaches this level hates to waste any time; indeed, he finds this abhorrent and very painful, and such feelings can only be achieved by having love of Allah. This is why those who have reached this level suffer when they become sick, but they do not suffer due to their sickness; rather, they suffer due to the fact that they have been prevented from worshiping in the manner that they have become accustomed to. This is why Allah has blessed such people with the reward that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam informed us of when he said: “When a slave becomes sick or is travelling, he receives the same reward that he would receive for all the righteous deeds that he is used to performing whilst at his residence.”

Continue on next article Signs of Allah's love.    
Courtesy of kalamullah.com